…ot to be subjected to male-looking people in public bathrooms as a matter of their sense of safety. I know there have been cases of masculine-looking lesbians being mistaken for men in women’s bathrooms and getting yelled at, shoved, or even arrested.
Actually, there have been far more incidents of that happening than of cis men pretending to be trans women just to gain entrance to a woman’s bathroom.
Another example of it not being well thought out is that segregation by genitals (setting aside the fact that many trans men and women have genital reconstruction surgery and would have the “correct” genitals), would mean that many trans men would have to use the women’s room. In that case, cis men wouldn’t need to dress like trans women; they would just need to walk on in claiming to be trans men.
There are a lot of issues brought up around this, but no concerns are exactly well-founded. I agree that a move toward gender neutral bathrooms is one solution, and many states are starting to stipulate that single-use bathrooms in new building projects be gender neutral.
However, that does not apply to larger multi-person bathrooms. Since trans women in the women’s room is not an issue, though, the solution there is for everyone to get over themselves. We all use stalls anyway. And I promise I will wash my hands when I am done!