“All hail, etc” is not a pronoun, so your example is ridiculous. Also, by using that example It seems you believe that whatever someone’s pronouns are is a matter just some flippant decision. Not really true. I didn’t just arbitrarily decide to have people use she/her pronouns. And you make it sound like only trans and non-binary people have pronouns. Whether a person is cis or trans they have pronouns and will either correct you or ignore you if you use the wrong ones. Either way you are in error at best and attempting an insult at worst, depending on whether you knew their pronouns and decided you knew better than them what they are or just made a mistake.

But no, you don’t get to determine the appropriate thing to call me. I mean, I can’t stop you from saying anything you want, and you couldn’t stop me from doing the same. I could walk up to you and call you Harry, but if your name was Steve, I would sound silly. And if I insisted on calling you Harry when I knew your name was Steve, I would be acting like an asshole insisting I had the right to call you whatever I wanted. Because Harry is not your name and so that is the wrong thing to call you.

Also, even if you have the right to do that, why would you want to disrespect someone like that. How is it hurting you? From what you said, it almost sounds like you want to call us anything you want just because you don’t want anyone telling you what to do. I hope that’s not really the case, as that would be pretty juvenile and obnoxious.

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