Except that really doesn’t happen much, if at all. As a trans woman myself, I can’t understand why anyone would want to be with someone who doesn’t accept them for who they are, or why someone would think that we think anyone “owes us a date.” In fact, when I was dating online many years ago, my profile had my status as (then) a pre-op trans woman. No one owed me anything and, just like dating in general, if I reached out, women would usually say yes, they were interested or no, they weren’t. They seldom said why they said no, and I didn’t really care. The woman who would later ask me to be her wife actually reached out to me. She told me later that she was impressed with my forthrightness in putting it out there. We have now been together for five years and married for a little over a year.

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