If someone called you ma’am, you would have no problem with it, right? If you did, is it because you have big gametes (whatever that really means, because someone calling you that isn’t doing so because of the size of your gametes), or what karaotype you are (most people don’t know their karaotype; initial research suggests that there is not always an exact correlation between men and XY, and women and XX. Men are born xx, women xy, and it doesn’t matter at all because it’s not something readily apparent).

It’s probably more likely that you would be offended because you know you are a man and feel that someone calling you something other than that is offensive.

My gender identity is woman. If someone calls me sir, insist on stating that I’m really a man, ask what my “real name” is, etc. you are really saying that you know me and my identity better than I do. Since you are familiar with the word dysphoria and that it is an actual condition, you will know that my gender and gender identity are not just things I’ve made up. Even if I didn’t have dysphoria, my gender identity would still be my gender identity and not up for speculation.

That brings up something else I need to point out: not all trans people have dysphoria, and of us who do experience it, each of us experience it differently. Because you keep saying “people with dysphoria,” when the more accurate term would be transgender people, I am not sure that you realize that.

Educator, writer, LGBTQ+ advocate, avid reader. Novelist in progress. Website: http://janelleswritemind.com/ Empowering the LGBTQ+ community one word at a time.

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