Because my feminism is about changing society and removing socialisation around gender norms, not about unreasonably expecting individuals to operate outside of society or transcend its influence.
It’s unreasonable to expect that someone can unlearn something they’ve learned (socialization = learned behavior), but not unreasonable to think we have a chance of “changing society?” Couldn’t unlearning the effects of socialization be one step toward removing socialization around harmful gender norms?
If you agree that socialization is the culprit, then would you also agree that — since it is basically the process of learning how society (whoever they are) expects us to behave and even think — those attitudes, ideas, and behaviors can be unlearned?
And while we are “changing society” and “removing socialization,” what of the millions of people who have already been socialized to accept gender norms? Should a woman raised to believe that girls should not be good at math, for example, continue to think that way, or should she try to unlearn those norms?