Right. My disagreement with you makes me a part of the patriarchy. Got it . Disagreement with you = bad feminism. That’s only true if yours is the only “right” answer. Sorry I had the temerity to disagree with you.

I’m not demanding anything from you. I have no say over how you feel and I don’t want to. You are as entitled to your own opinion as anyone else. However, you are not entitled to your own facts. And the fact is that transgender people are a minority and those who are not transgender have cisgender privilege. Saying you don’t have privilege because women are treated horribly in our society is not very different from saying a white woman doesn’t have white privilege. I have not said that ANYONE has it worse than anyone else. I went out of my way to be sure of that. My whole point is that there are different kinds of privilege and that having cis privilege doesn’t automatically privilege you as a woman.

I agree that there is a patriarchy and that society is rigged against women. I am a woman as well. As a woman I am not part of the patriarchy any more than you are.

By the way, how can you say that most transgender men are feminists but transgender women aren’t? Every trans man I know (and I know hundreds) would disagree that you don’t have cis privilege. They could give you probably more examples than I have. Since they disagree with you, just like me, you must think they aren’t feminists either. Or maybe you do because you think they really are women.

I noticed you said nothing about non-binary folks. Apparently they exist for you as much as cis privilege does.

And you might want to check your facts, because a majority of states do not have laws that allow transgender people to be free from discrimination. Where I am from — Michigan — there are token protections for lgb people but nothing for transgender people. Both need to change. Where I live now — Massachusetts — there have been protections for LGB folks for a couple decades but no protections at all for transgender people until 2011, and it was another five years later that public accommodations were added so that we couldn’t be kicked off the subway or expelled from a restaurant for being transgender. Even then, a bunch of right wing Christian extremists were able to meet the low threshold of signatures for a ballot referendum and the people of Massachusetts had to vote last fall about whether to give us rights. Of course it passed by almost 70%. A majority of Massachusetts voters (about half of whom are presumably women) agreed we deserved rights they already had. So not only does denying cis privilege not make someone a feminist, it puts them in a minority of women.

You are free, of course, to respond to this, but I am kind of tired of responding, especially since your rhetoric keeps escalating (calling me part of the patriarchy would be hysterically funny if I didn’t think you were serious). Putting words in my mouth (saying I said transgender people have it worse than women — we know I didn’t say that since I know that transgender women are women). Also, it doesn’t seem like you will agree to disagree. Therefore if you do respond with some fresh attack, know that I may not respond to it.

Have a nice day.

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