Thanks so much for your response! I find it interesting that you tell me not to speak about your experiences (I didn’t; I don’t know you) while you tell me about mine.
If the idea here is honest dialogue, I ask that you respond using “I “ statements and not “you” statements. If it’s not, then I wonder why you are posting here.
What are your experiences of having/not having privilege? Do you think that being female negates white privilege? It sounds like you are saying that, but I don’t want to misunderstand you.
Also, I respectfully submit that gender and privilege are more complex than you imply. Transgender people have an added layer of discrimination they have to fight. I imagine, as you don’t see me as female, you might refuse to see trans men as male. That would invalidate them as well and raises problems with access to everything from medical care to employment and housing. That’s not to mention the othering that occurs for all trans people. Most trans folk know not to bring up their trans status when not relevant (i.e. being at dr for some other complaint unrelated to being trans) lest it be made the issue. I doubt if your experiences have allowed you to understand what it means to be transgender or the privilege that all trans people (trans man, trans woman, non binary) do not have simply because they are trans.
Power and privilege are intersectional concepts. Someone could be a man of color, for instance and benefit from male privilege but not white privileged. Someone could be cisgender person — regardless of sex or gender — and have privilege that no transgender people have.
It sounds like we will have to agree to disagree on some of this, and that’s ok. I can’t convince you that cis privilege exists any more than you can convince transgender people and our allies that it doesn’t. And that, too, is ok.