Janelle Annemarie Heideman
1 min readApr 30, 2019

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This is beautiful. When I transitioned, I didn’t know if I would find love as myself. I just knew that I was not really loved, not all of me, not as myself. Years later, I met the woman I would later marry. She is a cis woman who was not the least deterred by my noting in my OK Cupid profile that I was trans. She reached out to me online, we dated a couple years, and, on the Sunday after Thanksgiving 2016, she asked me to marry her. We married almost a year ago (May 26, 2017). I thank the universe (or whatever forces in the universe that are responsible) every day for bringing her into my life. I don’t know if she understands just how much it means that she loves me, accepts me for who I am, and is on my side when so many other people might have rejected me out of hand. This is not meant to be some kind of brag — though I know how incredibly lucky I am — just a humble thank you to the universe. So I can definitely appreciate what you are talking about, Rachel.

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Janelle Annemarie Heideman

Educator, writer, LGBTQ+ advocate, avid reader. Novelist in progress. Website: http://janelleswritemind.com/ Empowering the LGBTQ+ community one word at a time.