“Trans women are male and always will be and thus while they have every right to “transition” get hormones and surgeries and etc, it does not make them female and does not entitle you to female spaces, lesbians’ vaginas, or anything else made for women because of the sex based oppression we feel.”

Right. I transitioned just to get access to your vagina, female spaces, and whatever other rubbish you claim we want. That’s why I know you didn’t read what I wrote, since my first sentence literally says that we don’t transition to gain access to women’s spaces or to take anything from other women. You have not proven that any of us transition to do that at all. Why would you think I would want to date you or any other person with whom I would even have a chance of being loved for who I am? And why would I want access to spaces where I am at risk of being violently hurt or at least met with hostility? Unless, somehow, you think I don’t belong in a woman’s bathroom stall (or even shower stall in a locker room). You are not in any way less safe with me there, and I AM less safe in a men’s bathroom or locker room. I don’t know, maybe you are talking about some other spaces. If there are places where you feel I shouldn’t be because I used to have a penis, I would be interested in hearing it.

I also said that I am fortunate to have people in my life who remind me of who and what I am, so I do not need you to agree that we are women. In fact, I know I am a woman and wouldn’t expect you to agree with me anyway. I would like to point out that your reasoning is rather circular: trans women are dangerous because of penises, but trans women without penises are somehow not valid because… You don’t really explain that. And even if you could, I started my original response knowing that you would do nothing more than double down on the whole “Trans women are not women” thing. So have fun making people like me out to be villains, and have a nice day.

Educator, writer, LGBTQ+ advocate, avid reader. Novelist in progress. Website: http://janelleswritemind.com/ Empowering the LGBTQ+ community one word at a time.

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